I didn’t come to enjoy learning until about my third year in college. In High School life was all about popularity and/or figuring out a way to stand out. I began college with that mentality, the mentality that I have to, in some way, become known. I suppose this idea might be a thread that runs through our lives, a common thread that everyone desires but in some ways, tries not to admit.
It was not until I no longer considered myself any longer (I guess that is one of the joys of marriage). I had to consider another in everything I was doing. School, life, a job, all of this was suddenly for another. You see, what happens is when considering others in your life you find that you don’t have all the answers. That life, in some way, actually does not revolve around you.
This is how my entire demeanor changed.
This is when my mentality shifted.
This is when I was humbled beyond belief.
This is when I learned that I need to never stop learning.
Marriage does that I suppose.
So, with that said, here are five things that those who live a life of learning have on those who do not.
1) Humility. Probably the most needed thing in our world. But as soon as you realize that you need to learn something from someone you, without knowing, become humble by nature.
2) Ability to rejoice with those who succeed. When I learned how to golf i would go to the golf course with my friends. We all, in some way were learning. When I lost i did’ care because, well, I played to learn, not to win. It was not until I played to win and not to learn that the games got more hostile and when I lost I would walk off the course sometimes without even a “good job” to give. Be a learner and you will find that competition, success, and the desire to win, goes out the window. Instead you will rejoice with the successors and desire to see them succeed.
3) You will have a better marriage. Marriage, at times, becomes all about right and wrong. Not so when you are a learner. Those we learn have the ability to take counsel, they consider that they might be wrong, and they see the bigger picture.
4) Failure becomes a learning opportunity, and not something you try to avoid. People don’t do things because they are afraid to fail. In my ministry I ran a guys trip at the worst time of the year. Not many guys showed up and our ministry lost some money. It failed. But, I learned from it and I can say that next years trip will be uber cray-cray. What I mean is there are those who let failure define them, then there are those who dont. Those who learn see failure as a stepping stone to better things.
5) You get farther in life. Sure, this is kind of an ambiguous statement. But many people say “I am blazing my own trail” and never take wisdom from those who have done it before. Trails are easier to walk on and people can get somewhere faster. Walk on a path that someone has set for you, and when the time is right, continue cutting the trail started for you.
Be a learner.
Til’ Next Time
Director at Mariners Church High School Ministry. Husband. Father. Speaker. Writer. Blogger.
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